I read my November issue of Nursing2006 with enjoyment and interest. However, I do wish to comment on "Communication: No Time to Talk" (Insights on Death and Dying).* The author suggests initiating conversation with a dying patient with remarks such as, "I see someone's sending you get-well wishes. That must help you get through the rough days here in the hospital."

After suffering my first significant loss several years ago, I found "you must" statements most unhelpful-why must I feel a certain way? I wonder if it would be better to ask the patient how something feels to him? Perhaps something like, "Does it help to know that people are thinking of you while you're here in hospital?"

Thank you for the otherwise useful advice on a difficult issue.

KATHERINE TRUELOVE, RN, RM, BNSC, MMID GRADDIPADNRSING (CRIT CARE-EMERGENCY)

Pambula Beach, N.S.W., Australia

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