February 2004, Volume 34 Number 2 , p 73 - 74
© 2004 Lippincott Williams & Wilkins, Inc. Volume 34(2) February 2004 p 73–74 Last chance to say good-bye [INSIGHTS ON DEATH & DYING: FAMILY RELATIONS]
UFEMA, JOY RN, MS
Joy Ufema pioneered the role of death-and-dying specialist at Harrisburg (Pa.) Hospital in 1973. She's currently clinical specialist at Upper Chesapeake Medical Center in Bel Air, Md., and at Harford Memorial Hospital in Havre de Grace, Md.
I work in an inpatient hospice and feel honored to be at the bedside during our patients' final hours. Many times I've witnessed a terminally ill person cling to life until a special relative arrives, then die a few minutes later. What should I say when a relative is unable or unwilling to visit for a last good-bye?—P.L., ONTARIO
Always the truth.
I recall working with an angry young man at our AIDS hospice. Justin ...